Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Covenant receives Grant from United Way for CARENET

Through Covenant CARENET, Covenant Community Services provides goods and services to foster children returning home to their families. The mission of CARENET is providing services and resources to foster children returning to their families and youth leaving the foster care system equipping them for successful transitions. CARENET is a partnership with the Kern County Department of Human Services and the Juvenile Court system. This program is supported by the donations of our community and through a grant received from United Way of Kern County, which will enable an increase of services provided to the community...

You can see the rest of the story as printed in the South West Voice - http://www.swvoice.com/home/ViewPost/68760

Thanks United Way of Kern County!

Life in the foxhole

Foster children are at war. There is no simple way to put it other than that. The reality begs a question. How are we going to help in the war?

I have decided to jump into the foxhole with as many foster children and youth as possible. Fortunately, I am not the only one doing this. There are people, great people like those here in Bakersfield with Covenant, other ministries, and RFKC, that serve and fight for, and with, abused and neglected children. These folks are extending a shot at freedom for abused and neglected kids. We need more freedom fighters!

We need people to stand up all around the world and fight for children that no one fights for. We need people to stand up against a very real enemy that is attempting to rob kids of destiny and hope. We need to make a stand and take back a generation that is sliding away without help.

Jump into a foxhole! Mentor a foster child or youth, start a support group for parents or teens, become a foster parent, collect backpacks for foster kids, collect suitcases for when they move, adopt ... do something! Get in a foxhole friend as a life, and very possibly the next couple generations, depends on it.

Friday, June 20, 2008

Support Foster Care

News came out today regarding the State of California budget cuts effecting foster children. A story from KGET http://www.kget.com/news/local/story.aspx?content_id=346d8cd8-b71f-49ea-8065-0d03dfbe4f3b details the information.

Abused and neglected children that enter foster care have had enough trauma. It is apparent that the State is far removed from the plight of foster children and over-worked case workers. What children need is more not less. The average foster child has few people in their corner. They need someone to fight for them and a social worker, a competent and compassionate one, is a key player in the life of a child. If social worker positions are cut the State must find alternative methods to advocate for children.

Please get involved in being a voice for children that don't have a mom or dad sticking up for them. Contact your representative or legislator and request that funding for foster children remain in tact. The future belongs to our children so let us invest in their lives today.

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Kids Have Talent ...


Thursday - Royal Family Kids Camp 2008



Today the children had the privilege of riding horses. The Kern County Sheriffs Mounted Posse brought up 10 horses to lead the children on a ride. There were many smiling faces and over 10 kids that had never been on a horse before. The young campers enjoyed "Babe", a miniature horse. In addition to the excitement of the horses the kids enjoyed participating in a talent show.



I look forward to the talent show each year. Normally shy and reserved kids come out of their shell and display amazing talent and skill. The kids dance, sing, do skits, tap, cheer and act out dramas. One girl, Lisa (not her real name), wrote an entire play that captured the theme of camp.



The play was about two young girls that were fighting at school. The girls were arguing over a school project and eventually were sent to the counselor, Lisa. The counselor, the playwright camper, spoke to the girls about God's word and their need to "get along" and be humble. The play ended with the girls "making up" and completing their project. It was an accurate and thoughtful play that showed Lisa's grasp of interpersonal struggles and relationship issues.



I know that there are many, many, many talents and skills each of these 44 campers have that are dormant. RFKC fans gifts to life and speaks to the success and talent in a child rather than their behaviors and issues. The talent show is one way RFKC builds resiliency in kids. Resiliency is the ability to bounce back from the trials and difficulties of life. When I watch the talent show I am not watching 44 kids that are destined to fail but destined to succeed and win at life. RFKC build overcomers through accepting kids as they are and speaking to their ability and capacity not their dysfunction and behavior.



As we tucked kids in tonight, I listened to multiple children say, "I can't wait to come back next year." Some kids cried, others hid, and some just smiled and said thanks. The older kids have the toughest time as they know this is their last year. It is sad to look a child in the eye and know you may never see them again. I can't imagine what the child feels like that has found hope and love only to watch it slip away. This is the difficulty of camp ... saying goodbye.



Tomorrow, we will hold our annual rock altar ceremony with the campers. At this event, the kids bury their problems in a hole and we cover it with dirt. Lastly, each kid and counselor throw rocks on top of the hole and we pray. It is as this moment we release the kids into God's care and make our goodbyes matter. RFKC teaches children that rarely get to say goodbye how to say goodbye in a healthy way.



Here is some stuff we heard today:



"RFKC is the best place ever - I never want to leave." - A child at Thursday's Thanksgiving dinner



"When I get older I want to be a cowgirl" - a little girl thanking the Posse after riding horses



"Thank you for the birthday party and putting on this camp. It is the best camp ever!"



"Smores and a camp fire - no way! This is awesome!"

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

For foster kids it's all details ...



Wednesday afternoon RFKC 2008

During lunch today a 9 year old girl had a breakdown as the children were served food. She was being comforted by her counselor when I walked over to see if I could help. I asked her, we will call her Suzie for her privacy, what was bothering her. She just cried. I sat with her and her counselor on the couch for a few minutes just letting her cry and then engaged her again asking what was making her cry. Suzie looked up at me and said, between sobs, "I feel like something is missing".

Since Suzie opened up I sensed the need to press a bit further and asked her how long she has been in foster care. I was amazed at what happened next. Suzie began to share with me every detail of her family background, her life before removal from her home, and the actual removal by law enforcement and CPS. She explained everything. I was in shock at the depth of detail and memory she had surrounding this crisis.

Suzie finished her story, we prayed and talked about hope for the restoration of her family. She shared her new-found hope from the Bible lesson on Wednesday ... Jesus helps me with my problems. Again, I was amazed. In the middle of a painful moment, Suzie not only recounted every detail of probably the worst day of her life but she shared her source of hope just embraced earlier the same day. How cool is that?

What I am learning through the incredible journey of RFKC and foster care is that for foster kids it is all in the details. They remember everything. Therefore, everything has the potential for transformational impact. This is purpose of RFKC - creating positive memories. We replace the negative tapes kids unfortunately have to play with new memories of joy and hope. Thanks for sending us to the children.

When they say they "love you" they mean it!


RFKC is a place where kids that have suffered abuse and neglect find hope and learn to trust again. A moment at camp captured this truth perfectly.


One of our counselors overheard another male counselor as he tucked his boys in for the evening. The counselor was telling the boys, "I love you guys - goodnight." The boys settled in their beds and the counselor left to use the restroom. Another counselor laid in his bunk nearby and heard the boys talking. One of the boys began to talk about the counselor saying I love you and making fun of the counselor, "yeeewww, I luuvvvv youuuu!" The other boy quickly shut him down and stated, "no, when these people tell you they love you they mean it - they are not like other people."


This is the story behind RFKC. God's people telling kids that have suffered great injustice that God loves them. God's people allowing Him to use their tired bodies, fragile emotions and weary hands to speak His love and acceptance over kids that rarely feel accepted. This is RFKC. God moving through His people and kids being blessed.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

God Speaks to His Children

Today was a great day at RFKC. Although there were many problems with the camp facility, sick or injured staff, and other non-child issues, camp moved forward. The children played, heard Bible stories, swam, created crafts and enjoyed the outdoors. It was a great day where kids just got to be kids!

At the evening activity, I felt impressed to share about God's love during difficult times. I spoke about the pain, shame, hurt and loss involved with foster care. The children listened attentively and soberly. As I shared, I watched the faces of kids as they reflected on there experiences in foster care. The mood changed from extreme joy to deep reflection.
Through the RFKC curriculum, the kids learned that "Jesus wants me on His team" and "Jesus sees the best in me". I jumped off from these two strong statements and let them know that He does this based on His great love. Additionally, I let them know that the camp, each volunteer staff, and the entire week was destined by God to share His love, acceptance and hope.

Following the evening activity, the children were released to their cabins for bed. One girl stayed behind with her counselor and cried. I went to the girl and she shared her sadness over being apart from her parents and siblings. I gave her a hug and we discussed God's word from the Beatitudes that God comforts those that mourn. As we talked, her countenance changed as God began to speak comfort to her heart. Suddenly, RFKC was not just a "camp" but a reality where God speaks. She heard Him and felt His comfort. We prayed for her comfort and peace and she began to smile.

As she was walking off to her cabin one of our staff asked if she was having fun. She quickly replied, "Yes!" accompanied by a big smile. It is amazing to watch God comfort his children with His love and grace. A little girl went from despair to hope as she heard the good news of Jesus' love. She went from sadness to joy as people shared her pain and offered comfort. Now, she is armed with the strength and hope to tackle her fears. She knows that God will never leave her and that there are safe people that will help in trial. This is what RFKC is all about.